Dadvengers Podcast Episode 25 – Troy Deeney
It’s the Dadvengers Podcast Episode 25 – Troy Deeney. This week’s guest is a straight talker! He’s a footballer, dad of 4 and activist changing how black history is taught in schools. Troy’s episode is a must listen for all parents!
Troy witnessed domestic abuse as a child, which he also tried to protect him mum from. He talks about helping support his family from a young age. He worked to help his mum financially from 11 years old and regularly got into trouble for leaving early to pick up his brother and sister from school. These experiences shaped him as he grew into an adult and became a parent.
Troy never thought he would need therapy. But after getting into trouble with the police, he realised he needed to talk about, and deal with, his past traumas. So he sought therapy. Troy’s a big believer in the importance of finding the right therapist and not giving up if the first one doesn’t work out. Troy tells us how therapy has helped him become a better parent and how he uses his experiences to help others.
Troy’s also using his platform to talk about the lack of black history being taught to our kids, and how and why this needs to change. He also made a brilliant documentary called “Troy Deeney – Where’s My History”, which is referenced a few times during this episode, and we recommend you watch that too. .
Troy is a great example of a Dadvenger and we’re so pleased he shared his story with us! 💙
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Episode Time Stamps
2:03 – Troy tells us about his upbringing and his generally happy childhood.
6:06 – “There’s an element of shame in talking about it”. Troy on witnessing domestic violence and why he is opening up about it.
11:38 – “I was drinking a lot… I got into trouble”. Life changed and Troy ended up in prison.
14:29 – “My friend saw I was carrying something and made me promise to get help”. When and why Troy decided to get into therapy.
19:07 – “The beauty is in failing… it makes you a better parent.”. The positives of dealing with past traumas.
22:52 – “I wasn’t allowed to cry…. the first thing my dad said was ‘Did you cry’.” – Troy talks about the importance of being allowed to show emotions.
28:26 – “I was working at 11… I got in trouble at school for leaving to pick up my brother and sister.”. Troy tells us how he helped support his family from a young age.
32:58 – “I was 19 when I had my first son… I have become a better dad over the last three years.”.
Troy on becoming a parent and learning to be emotionally present.
36:35 – “Domestic abuse went up by 68%… it might help someone”. Troy discusses why he wrote his book.
39:47 – Troy on why he is so invested in education for himself and his kids.
43:11 – “You’ve got to enable young children to see, hear and feel what they can achieve.” The importance of teaching black history.
46:37 – Troy talks about his new project for changing how our children learn.
49:12 – “We’re in a privileged position”. Find out about Troy’s documentary, and why he is using his position as a platform for change.
55:55 – We ask your questions and learn Troy’s parent superpower!
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